You and your spouse don't see eye-to-eye, and that's been further established by the animosity during your divorce. Every time you do one thing you believe will help, your estranged spouse seems to lash out at you in anger and vice-versa.
Some people, particularly those with firm preconceptions about divorce, may believe that divorce has to be an aggressive, argumentative situation. They might believe that it's normal to try to bring your spouse down instead of resolving the case in as much of a "win-win" scenario as possible.
Collaborative law is designed to help people work together to resolve their disputes during a divorce. It's a relatively new process, and its goal is to help resolve the case rather than to have one party win over the other.
Many people don't understand the importance of a collaborative divorce, mediation or arbitration. They believe that those services are only for people who want to work together to spend time resolving their issues or for parents or those with substantial assets.