Collaborative divorces are very popular because they save time and money while preventing serious conflict. A Collaborative divorce takes your divorce out of the traditional trial-based system and places into a setting where you’re expected to negotiate to resolve disputes.
There are many benefits to going through a Collaborative divorce rather than taking your disputes to trial. These include:
- Saving money and emotional distress
- Having a less formal setting to discuss your divorce’s resolution
- Being able to freely exchange information in an honest, informal environment
- Being able to negotiate for a result that works for you and having control over that result instead of having one imposed on you by the court
- Deciding how to handle disputes over settlements that already occurred
- Working effectively on your divorce with the support of team members that are appropriate for your case
In a Collaborative divorce setting, each of you will hire your own attorney. You want to make sure your attorney is not only versed in mediation and Collaborative divorce but also agrees with it.
Initially, you’ll meet with your attorney privately to discuss how a Collaborative divorce works and the issues of your case. Then you will participate in team Meetings A Collaborative divorce is different from traditional divorce in that you do not start outmaking demands for settlement at your team meetings. Instead you and your spouse have an opportunity to discuss your goals and concerns at future meetings with your attorneys and other professional team members present. You will be part of a team that solves problems and creates solutions from the ground up. Financial planners or accountants, mental health professionals with coaching and child development backgrounds and other team members may also participate, depending on the needs of your case. Not all of the team members have to be present at every meeting. Sometimes the spouses will meet with a financial planner or a parenting specialist with out their attorneys. The process is tailored to your particular case.
If you have trouble agreeing, a mediator can be brought into the mix as well, which is something to try if you’re struggling with your Collaborative divorce presently.