Collaborative law is a way to resolve disputes in a calm and focused setting, instead of in a courtroom. This process is a way to discuss and problem-solve, not a process to "fight" with one another expecting a victor.
Each party must retain a separate specially trained Collaborate attorney for the Collaborative law process, helping to ensure that your best interests are being taken care of. Other Collaborative professionals are involved in a Collaborative divorce as needed, such as a financial neutral, a divorce coach, and a child specialist. The job at hand is to settle the dispute or problem without going to court. If you do end up filing with the court, then the process ends and neither attorney can continue to work with you moving forward. This is an incentive for all to work hard to help create a settlement that works for the entire family.
The benefit of collaborative law is that it is often more respectful than going to court. You and your spouse don't have to be at odds with one another. Instead, you'll have a chance to discuss what you need to talk about, like spousal support, for example, and why you feel strongly that you deserve it or that the other person doesn't deserve it or as much as they want.
Both parties are required to be honest during this process, and they should be respectful of one another. The overall goal is to come up with a solution that is satisfactory for both parties, not just for one. You can work with additional professionals, like financial professionals or child experts, to make sure your case is handled with the utmost care. Most people who use this process are able to settle, helping them get what they need out of their marriage and for their future.